From Doreen Virtue’s “The Romance Angels Oracle Cards” Oracle Deck
What a lovely message for this Valentine’s Day!
If you’re in an established relationship: This card signifies the deepening of your bond. Whether you have been together for a few months, or for years, there is always more to learn about your partner because we are (hopefully) continuously growing as individuals. The ability to communicate and listen to one another deepens your intimacy and a new sense of wonder in one another. Turn the lights down low, put on some romantic music, pour yourself a glass of wine (or cup of coffee/tea if that’s more your style) and get to chatting! It’s fun to reflect on the story of how you began and where you are going, but change things up and invite new and interesting topics into the conversation. You’d be surprised at how much you think you knew about your partner but really didn’t – “I didn’t know you were interested in/wanting to start traveling!” These conversations bring a glow to your face, a sparkle to your eyes and open doors up for new adventures for both of you to go on together. Growing together is just as important and growing individually. Make time today and everyday to talk with one another.
If you’re in a troubled relationship: No one wants to admit outwardly when they are in a troubled relationship, but in your heart you may know that this pertains to you. This card signifies that communication is important right now. If the actual issue is that there is trouble communicating with your partner, then you may benefit from bringing a counselor into the picture to help. This opens doors for outward and honest discussion and you may be surprised to hear what your partner has to say, or by what you have to say. This could be a great thing for your relationship and open doors for finding your love again and reconnecting. It’s ok to hit bumps in relationships, as it is healthy from time to time in order to solidify your bond. If you feel that bringing a counselor in isn’t necessary, then attempt to sit down with your partner to talk openly and honestly about whatever it is that is bothering you. Holding back, or suppressing your true feelings will only lead to more distance. Invite communication in to your relationship to find out how each other is feeling. Whether the outcome is a positive or negative one for you, you will gain something from finding out each others true feelings.
If you’ve newly met someone: If you’ve just newly met someone then this card is more literal for you – get to know this person first before jumping in with two feet! It’s easy to feel pressured when you see everyone around you dating, getting married and starting families. You start to feel sorry for yourself and begin settling for the first person that shows you attention or asks you out – stop doing this! There is also a vast difference between sex and love. Society and the online dating world have shaped many into thinking that in order for someone to like us, we need to sleep with them. This isn’t true. A respectful and higher love takes time to build. The love-making part of a healthy and whole relationship is the bonus feature. You can’t have the cake without putting the ingredients together and baking it first. Take your time getting to know this new person in your life and what they are really about and looking for. If you are both on the same page and looking for fun then great! However, if you are looking for a more serious relationship and the other person is not, I have news for you… that person isn’t changing unless they want to! Taking that risk is up to you. Remember that you need to be honest with yourself first about what you want – get to know yourself and your wants and needs. Then you can take your time getting to know someone. Slow and steady wins the race. And if they aren’t up for it, then there is your answer.
If you’re single: You do not need to jump on every opportunity that comes your way and are not obligated to settle for the first person that comes along. So that may mean you may be single for longer – big deal! You are free to do the things you want to do and become the best version of yourself. Make a list of all of the things you want in a partner and all of the things you don’t. Give yourself time to do this as you will discover more things you do and don’t want with every failed date or relationship. Eventually, you will meet someone that matches everything you have ever dreamed of having and then some. I have been there myself and know the feeling. Take this time to get to know yourself better so that you can attract the perfect person for YOU. The truth is that you will not be alone forever, you will find that special someone. When you feel like that special person may have come along, remember everything that you have learned about love up until that point. Take your time getting to know the person and truly understand who they are before deciding that they are the right one for you. When love is real, it won’t leave, and you won’t have to rush your decision. Learn about who they are as a person, who they are with their family, who they are with their friends, who they are as an employee – look at all sides. Only then when you get to know each other, will you understand that you were meant to be.